Sally L. Havlik

SALLY LEE HAVLIK
June 15, 1946 – June 15, 2025

Sally Lee Havlik, a woman of profound thought and boundless heart, passed away peacefully on her 79th birthday, Sunday, June 15, 2025, at Gundersen Hospital in La Crosse, Wisconsin, surrounded by her family. Born on June 15, 1946, in Mauston, Wisconsin, to Anita and Clarence Vanderhoof. Sally’s life was a tapestry of deep connections, unwavering care, and quiet strength.

Sally graduated from Wonewoc High School in 1964 and on December 28, 1965, married the love of her life, Joseph L. Havlik, from Hillsboro, Wisconsin. The Navy took them to San Diego, California, where they welcomed two daughters, Brenda Jo and Tammy Jo. The family spent 14 months in Japan during Joe’s Naval service during the Vietnam War. That experience enriched Sally’s perspective and deepened her appreciation for connection across cultures. After four years in the Navy, the family returned to San Diego, where they built a vibrant life for 30 years. Sally’s vacations often brought her back to the Hillsboro area, where her roots and relationships with family and friends remained a cornerstone of her life. An accomplished bowler, Sally found joy in the sport in her spare time but her true delight was in nurturing her family and friends.

While in San Diego, Sally dedicated herself to supporting those struggling with addiction and mental health, bringing her characteristic empathy and insight to her work. Mama Sally was her daughter, Tammy Jo’s inspiration, teaching her that authentic connectedness is the vital source of healing. Tammy Jo, now working on the frontlines to support those suffering with mental health and addiction, carries forward her mother’s legacy. The relationship between Mama Sally and Tammy Jo was courageously deep, a bond that will remain connected across all lifetimes.

Known as “Mama Sally”, she created a loving home where everyone felt seen and cherished. Her kitchen was a haven, not just for her delicious meals but for the warmth and unconditional love she offered to all. The essence of her “deep-feeling” nature made every interaction meaningful, as she held an authentic space of care that was unmatched. 

In 1993, Sally and Joe (along with their dog and cat) returned to the Hillsboro, Wisconsin area to be closer to their loved ones. Sally was a skilled left-handed crocheter, taught by her grandmother. She poured her heart into creating afghans for all the new born babies at St. Joseph’s Hospital in Hillsboro and made hats and scarfs for soldiers during the Iraq and Afghanistan wars. Each stitch was a testament to her thoughtfulness and generosity.

Sally is survived by her devoted drummer and guitarist “Rock-star” husband of 59 years, Joseph L. Havlik, also known as “The Man in Black”; her daughter Tammy Jo, and beloved son-in-law, Joe Sukana; as well as her cherished “spiritually adopted children” Sahi Ayrom, Shawn Corum (my purple-haired son), and Ron Penn all of San Diego, California. She was preceded in death by her parents, Anita and Clarence Vanderhoof and her beloved daughter, Brenda Jo, who passed away at age 21 from a brain aneurysm in 1987.

Mama Sally’s legacy is one of profound love and deep connection. Those who knew her felt her unconditional care, a rare gift that left an indelible mark on their hearts. A celebration of her life will be held at a later date. In lieu of flowers, the family encourages donations to a charity in Sally’s name, supporting mental health or veteran’s services.

We love you, Mama Sally. GOD HOLDS YOU NOW IN HIS ETERNAL EMBRACE OF PEACE. Love, your 3 Jo(e)s.